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5 Reasons to Try Family-Style Dining

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It may seem messy, but family-style dining offers lots of benefits including teaching good manners, learning moderation, and improving motor skills.

Family Style MealsFamilies are diverse and so are the ways in which they eat. While one family may gather around the dinner table and say grace, another may pack a picnic to bring to the soccer field, and another might eat in shifts as people get home.

Furthermore, the same family may resort to different approaches depending on the night. In my house, Monday nights include my son’s band rehearsal and my committee meetings. So my husband and other son enjoy dinner together while the two of us are out. On Tuesday nights, on the other hand, no one has standing obligations so we make it a priority to eat together. 

Before I became a mom, I didn’t really think about how these things would play out in my household. I also never imagined how ever-changing and fluid the process would be. But while who is at the table and what food is offered changes from day to day, one of the approaches I try my best to use consistently is family-style dining. 

Serving dishes at family style diningWhat is Family-Style Dining?

Serving a meal family-style means that, rather than plate each person’s food for them, you put the food out on the table in passable bowls and invite everyone to serve themselves.

What about hot and heavy dishes?

If you have a big casserole or pot of soup or stew, family-style dining is more challenging, but not impossible! You can serve from the big pot, but also put out toppings, condiments, and side dishes for people to serve themselves.

5 Reasons to Try Family-Style Dining

Family Dinner buffet style 1. It’s an opportunity to teach kids how to share and use good manners

When you first start out, it may feel a bit out of control, but that’s because kids need to learn how to share and have good manners. It is a teachable moment.

Here is how mom Amy Dempster described her early family-style dining experience: “The first time I put the family-style serving dishes on the table, it was a bit of a free-for-all. Little hands and fingers were everywhere grabbing food. It wasn’t long before they starting whining over who got more mozzarella cheese balls. Family-style dining wasn’t off to a great start but I took a deep breath and looked at the melee as an opportunity to put some sharing strategies and good manners (“Please pass the..”) into practice.”

You can help your children to learn these manners by setting expectations. For instance, when my kids were smaller I would remind everyone: 1) take a little and you can always come back for more, and 2) everyone gets some, so only take your share. I was impressed by how quickly my kids got these ideas (although it was more challenging when a favorite was out on the table).

Family Dinner 2. It’s a great way to guide kids about making smart food choices

My family started family-style dining when my son was in the depths of his picky phase. I was terrified he would never eat another vegetable. To assuage my fears, I would encourage him to at least put a tiny amount on his plate.

Sometime he would eat it, sometimes he wouldn’t. But more interestingly, after a little while his little hand was going back for more vegetables. It hadn’t suddenly changed him into a vegetable lover, but family style dining gave him a sense of control. This opened him up to discovering some vegetables he actually liked.  

Furthermore, when my kids’ preschool made the switch to serving family-style snacks, they were floored to see how much more produce the kids ate when they served themselves. 

Young Kid serving themselves food during family style dining

3. It helps kids grow independence and self-confidence

Kids like to do things on their own, especially toddlers. Unfortunately, we often find ourselves saying “no” to them, either for safety reasons or to save time. But when you serve meals family-style, they get to serve themselves. This can nurture that sense of independence in a safe and positive space.

Young child Improving motor skills with family style dining 4. It improves motor skills and coordination

Have you ever thought about how much coordination it takes to put food on a plate? Food comes in many shapes, sizes, textures and consistencies and with it, a massive variety of serving utensils.

For toddlers and young elementary-aged kids, learning to use these utensils is great motor skills practice. It will help them with hand-eye coordination and spatial reasoning.

Young child listening to hunger cues 5. It teaches children how to recognize hunger cues and know when they’re full

When we first started family-style dining, my boys took WAY more food than their stomachs could handle. They had stomach discomfort from overeating and left food on plates (which my noble husband took for lunch the next day).

It drove me up the wall, but the benefits were quickly realized. They learned not only to serve themselves with moderation, but also to listen to their body and recognize when they were full. It’s a life skill that they will now have for a lifetime. (Side note: I have also noticed that since I got my kids to start packing their own lunches, they actually bring less food than I would probably pack for them. Now the lunchboxes come back empty much more often – because they only packed what they would actually eat!)

Like parenting, family dining styles are a matter of personal preference and taste. I don’t believe in absolutes and, in fact, there are times when I still serve my kids pre-plated meals. Whether I serve pre-plated or family-style meals, the most important thing is spending quality time with my family and talking about our day.

Looking for more cooking inspiration? Check out The Scramble’s family-friendly meal plans to see just how simple getting dinner on the table can be!

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